1. Nagging - Avoid guilt trips!!! Women (like myself) tend to make men feel guilty when trying to discourage them to do something.
Example of conversation between wife to husband:
"Honey, why do you need a new pair of shoes? You just bought a new pair last year! Do you know people everywhere are losing their jobs? The economy is going downhill! Can you start saving some $$$ or not?!"
Now... this will result in the man becoming "deaf" all of a sudden and you will just get his "ignore" mode i.e. SILENCE. My advice, give-and-take. If your man needs a new pair of shoes, and there's a good reason for it, let him buy it! Don't GUILT TRIP him! If you feel there's a valid reason to stop the purchase, state your reasons and discuss / decide it together.
2. Housework - The best way to sort this out, DO IT TOGETHER! That way, everything is shared, there's no need to argue over who does what, and it's a fun way to get the chores done! Especially cleaning the toilet, everyone hates it, so why not share the pain? For better or for worse, right? :)
3. Dining - I recommend dining out at least once a week, to break the routine of cooking + washing up. Also, it's nice to get all dressed up, and keep the romance flame burning. And when I say dining out, I mean nice cafe, not dingy takeaway joint! Unless you have a crying baby on your hands, then this may not be a good option for you!
4. Money - I think it's good to be open and upfront about this issue. Some couples like to "hide" their bank balance information from their partners. Some feel that it's taboo to even share what their income is... I totally disagree with this! How can you do financial planning, and manage your household budgets (read: mortgage, etc) when you don't know what your financial limitations are? I'm not saying you have to open a joint bank account, but you should at least let your partner know how much savings you have! That old saying "My money is my money, and your money is my money" does not hold true, OK! I have seen FAR too many couples break up over money, it's not worth it.
5. Trust- At the end of the day, you have to trust your partner. Trust that they won't stray, that they won't betray you, that they won't take you for granted, trust that you're good enough, have faith that you'll make it through the ups and downs. Because if you can't trust your other half, then the foundation will not be strong enough to hold it together in the long term. Please do not resort to things like setting up fake Facebook accounts to try to "spy" on your partner, or worse yet, secretly read their emails / facebook messages / SMSes etc!!!
And guys, if you're reading this, please take note of these tips as well, it may just be the make or break in your relationship!!!!
But... Ignore this post if you're JUST NOT THAT INTO HER!
Or.. if you prefer subtle hints - bring her to watch this :
Now showing, at the movies :)
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